[Nailbiter]

I feel your pain.
From my own recent personal experience, I've learned that you really dont have much to say in whether its "totaled" or not. Its the Insurance Co's decision. Not yours or the repair shops. It can go both ways....Sometimes they wont total it when you want them to, and sometimes they do when you dont. It sucks, but thats the way it is. About the only exception I've personally heard of is when you know a repair shop adjuster who persoanlly knows your Insurance Co adjuster. Then some strings may be pulled. I even know some Insurance adjusters who told me about situations similar to yours... The Insurance Co OK'd the repairs, but the total ends up exceeding the "Total" value. But by then the Insurance Co cant afford to change their mind. They spend more to fix it than it would have cost to "Total" it. Stupid, but true.

I wish you the best of luck!