Personally, I find these "my silly wife is an idiot" threads refreshing, considering MOST of the threads in this forum related to truck damage are about how the
primary driver hit a pole/tree/garage/drove it into water... Learning how to commandeer a large vehicle is purely based on experience and caution, not your freakin' genitalia.

Anyone can be retarded when they aren't equipped to handle a situation.
Seriously, anyone who wants to berate their spouse for lack of driving skills needs to stop complaining and do something about it. It's partially YOUR fault you've allowed them to wallow in ignorance!

If you've married someone that isn't into vehicles, and doesn't care about driving, the onus is on YOU to show them the light. Personally, I can't even imagine allowing my spouse to drive like a wanton idiot. Instead of castigating them, why don't you take a couple of afternoons and show them the limitations of the vehicle? It will give you both the confidence necessary to keep your Tundras safe...
To the OP - sorry about the damage. Maybe you can take this chance to change to a new kind of bumper?