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Originally Posted by Kenai_Tundra

After viewing your diagram and my manual I can see one thing I did not do. I wired the anti-grind relay, but I did not make the "cut".

Shorting out the anti-grind relay only allows you to grind the starter while it's running (it negates the anti-grind relay). It shouldn't affect the autostart's ability to know when the key is turned on (however, sometimes electronics designers do strange things...). If the wiring is correct, I'm starting to think there is an issue with the autostart itself. It could be that some auxiliary wire inputs are not present and so it's not working correctly (those wires not shown on the diagram I supplied - brakes, doors, etc.).

I let my subscription expire so I don't have access to 2002 wiring diagrams. If you do subscribe, they are available to you. Might help track down relay/fuse issues.

For 2004, there is a headlight relay, foglight relay, etc. that is controlled by the stalk switch wiring. These are located in the engine compartment on the driver's side in a black box with a removable lid and include fuses too. Your autostart should only be wired into the parking lights (not sure how its affecting the headlights). Any way you can disconnect the autostart and see if the lights work again?