oh what a headache....toyota!
so after going to the dealership and getting what SHOULD be the right part and changing the gear oil the speedo still does not work! the job took like 30 minutes total to do and it was quite simple. the answers to my own questions are
1. no, there are like 7 different gear sizes for all makes and years. there was a stripped 34 tooth gear in my tranny and the dealership told me it should be a 32 tooth after checking my vin#.
2. i spilled gear oil, not tranny fluid.....i think it was almost 3qts
3. i did not have to pull the tranny, there is a 12mm bolt that holds a clip into a slot in the gear cuppling. once the bolt is removed, i slipped an angled wedge into the slot and it pops out. a little clip holds the gear in place.
4. the teeth are angled so that the gear should slide in......when i put the new part in the gear still spun freely (i had a feeling the speed was still not gonna work

) but i went ahead and filled the tranny with gear oil anyway.
so.....i went to the dealership again to see what my other gear choices were. a 33 tooth and a 34 tooth. these are both for 1 ton models, mine is a 1/2 ton. i also called the previous owner and he didnt have any idea if the tranny was ever swapped
my new question....is there any special indications on the tranny that would give me info on which is really the right part? i already spent $30 on a non-returnable part and want to avoid making the same mistake.
i know my truck may be old, but some help/advice/info would be great.

richie